This week, I was blessed to have amazing conversations with some incredible women. Smart, storied, and ambitious women who work hard and who want to serve their community. The conversation was fun, insightful and exciting. Have you ever had a conversation like that with a friend or colleague, that just makes you light up?
Considering the season we’re in, we got on to the topic of goal-setting, of resolution making, and what that looks like for us this year. Particularly, how so many people think they are inspiring us to buy their product/watch their presentation/like their Instagram post when they say these four annoying words:
New year, new you.
Now, this gets me a little angry. I don’t like the implication that because the calendar year rolled over, we have to be brand spankin’ new, like we just arrived from our mama’s you-know-what. As if the old self isn’t good enough for 2019.
I call bullshit, and I move to change the phrase.
New year, same you.
Can I get an Amen? Let me explain.
Who you are at midnight on December 31st, should not disappear on January 1st simply because you get to use that new calendar with the cute puppies on it. Who you are now, does not need a complete and total wipeout.
Who you are, at this very moment, as we slide into a new year, is amazing. You are a creative soul, you are important, and you are valuable.
Now don’t get me wrong, improvements are great. I love improvements. I love that we have so many free tools at our fingertips to help us improve wherever we desire, whether it be physically, mentally, emotionally or heck, all three of these things.
Make it a goal to improve upon one or all of these things in 2019. Consume books, podcasts, speakers, videos, etc. to help you, if you wish. I have a goal setting strategy that has done wonders for the habits I want to change and breaking down my goals, big and small.
But please, for the love, don’t have the mindset of “new year, new me.” It doesn’t work. It’s too much pressure. Have grace for yourself and remember that those who love you best, wouldn’t want your light to be dimmed.
Brene Brown, in her infinite wisdom, writes in one of her books: “You’re imperfect, and you’re wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”
So please, go into 2019 knowing this is true. You are imperfect, it’s true. But you don’t need to be renewed. In fact, your struggles will probably make a lot more sense if you keep the “old” you around.
And to the ladies who have inspired me this week with your big hearts and open minds, please don’t be offended when I say – I hope the old you shows up in 2019, ready to go.
Don't leave 2018 without a gift from me! I am offering some pretty, inspirational 8x10 printables for your desk, vision board, or as a last minute gift for a friend! Happy New Year, my friend!
Photo credit goes to Sara Zinn Photography.