This month, our blog posts have been all about celebrating women: whether it be for Mother’s Day, a friend in need, or most importantly, yourself - even in your most vulnerable places.
As we approach the month of May, you’re bound to see celebrations of women everywhere, lots of pink, and lots of flowers. Being a woman is fun and beautiful for sure, but it’s hard too. It’s easy to get caught up in ourselves or in the people who need our attention the most – and our friendships can suffer for it sometimes.
Today, we are talking about how to be a good friend and keep those connections, well – connected! How we celebrate the people in our lives says a lot about how we feel about ourselves, too.
Empower them. You know how it is. On the surface, everything looks great with your friend that you haven’t connected with in a few months – Facebook tells us that the kids are good, job intact, a trip to a warm climate was had. Social media doesn’t always have room for more than the highlight reel, though. A quick, friendly text will always, always be appreciated and sometimes even more than you know. It might be just what they need to get through the day!
Invite them. Have you ever seen something on your Facebook events page and thought, “I’d love to go do that, but I don’t know who would go with me,” and just forgotten about it? If you’re nodding your head yes, then this is something we need to talk about because a LOT of women feel this way and nobody knows! So the next time there’s a paint and wine night, or you were invited to an in-home party, text a friend. Seriously, they’ll love the invite even if the thing is not their “thing”. It shows you thought of them, and people just want to be thought of – it’s as simple as that!
Give them the benefit of the doubt. My 8th grade math teacher broke down the word “assume” on the board one day, and she said, “Do you know what happens when you assume? You make an ‘ass’ out of ‘u’ and ‘me.’” I’d say it was worth the slap on the wrist she got from administration for the angry parent calls that came (personally, I figured if any subject was worth cursing over, it was math), because she really was teaching a valuable life lesson. Assuming that someone is upset or angry with you when you don’t have any factual information is detrimental to your life and your friendship. Find a way to ask if everything is okay, which is how to be a good friend anyway!
It’s about them, and that’s okay. I like to approach a conversation with a giver’s mentality. That’s not to say you can’t reach out to share what’s been happening with you or to get advice on a problem you’re having. It’s just a good rule of thumb to start a conversation and be able to start off giving rather than taking. One of my favorite ways to do that is to say something like, “Hi! I have been thinking about you. What’s new?” You will probably make their day – and yours as well!
Go the extra mile. Your spending power can be used to be a good friend and make someone’s day, whether it’s as small as a card in the mail, a surprise coffee at their door or office, or a special something that made you think of her. This item in our shop was inspired by all the things I wish my friends always knew about themselves.
What are your tips on how to be a good friend? Tell me in the comments, so we can make a big list of ideas!