“I have no idea what I’m doing, and nobody is going to buy from me.”
I got lucky with this sale. It will never happen again.”
“I’m not an expert, and people are going to find out what an imposter I am.”
If this is familiar to you as something you’ve said to yourself recently, then you have a healthy dose of something called Imposter Syndrome.
I choose to write about this topic because I think it’s so important to bring out this negative self-talk into the open, and let you know – you are not alone!
Everyone has dealt with imposter syndrome at some point in their careers, or their personal goals. Even the people at the top of their fields have had these thoughts.
The difference between them and everyone else, is that they have figured out ways to overcome imposter syndrome.
Just so we are clear, the definition of imposter syndrome is the negative self-talk that usually comes after an accomplishment has occurred in your business or personal life.
If you are a mom boss and you have too many goals and dreams to let anything get in the way, then these tips to overcoming imposter syndrome are going to be so helpful.
Feelings can’t be right or wrong. Let’s sit here for a moment. I love motivational quotes like “just do it,” and “dream big,” just as much as the next mom boss, but don’t forget that feelings can’t be right or wrong and there’s no reason to push it away. If you are feeling a certain way – that’s allowed here. Whenever my feelings get in the way of my actions, I journal about them so that they are on paper and I can sort of sift through my emotions, and not let my actions get in the way.
Write down your accomplishments. Pull out a piece of paper and go back through the things that have happened in your life in the last 6 months, or even a year. Write down at least 5 things that you accomplished. Those accomplishments are not by accident. Keep this piece of paper posted so you can add to it, and refer to it every time these negative thoughts come into your head. You must accept where you are, in order to move to the place you want to be.
Check in with your people. One of the best ways I know how to get over a crappy feeling I have in my business, is to widen my scope a little. I do this by reaching out to the people I’m thinking about and letting them know that I’m thinking about them. In the case of overcoming imposter syndrome, I want you to go back to some of your past clients or customers, and see if there’s anything you can help them with. Let them know how grateful you are for them and their business, and ask them if there’s anything else you can do to help them grow. Disclaimer: don’t be surprised if you get a testimonial out of this action step!
Use your imagination for good, not for evil. If you can do all this fancy negative self-talk – imagine what kind of GOOD things you can say to yourself? Your subconscious doesn’t know the difference between reality and dreaming, so – let’s play a little trick on the old brain! Imagine what it would look like if you kept moving forward, despite the negative self-talk going on in your head. What would your day look like, what kind of goals would you smash, what money would you achieve and what would it allow your life to look like? Create that entire scenario in your head – draw a picture if you have to! This is your life and you are entitled to do the best you can with it – and not let anyone, especially yourself, get in the way.
I empower moms to design the business of their dreams, fueled by clarity, systems and strategies for success. I’m hosting a free Masterclass called Mom Boss Blueprint that I would love for you to join if you’re wanting to start your work at home career, or you’re having trouble getting it off the ground. I can’t wait to see you there!